Alright, let’s talk locus of control – not some psych jargon, but the real deal for those of us in the 20 to 50 age range. Picture this: your life, your rules. That’s what we’re getting at. Locus of control is your backstage pass to being the rockstar of your own existence.
Everyone of us has his own rules and values in life and sometimes we catch ourselves believing that those around share exactly the same. But this is not possible, because everyone has his own model of the world with his own believes and values, perceptions, emotions and experiences.
Internal or external locus of control?
Got an internal locus of control? Hell yeah! It’s like having your life’s DJ booth. You spin the tracks, call the shots, and own the dance floor.
External locus? Time to hit pause. Life’s not a spectator sport; you’re the headliner. Taking control means less stress, more power moves, and a backstage pass to your best life.
Missing vs. Gratitude
Now, let’s talk happiness – the VIP section of life. Forget FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), focus on JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out). Turn the spotlight on the now, on what YOU can change and on what you have.
If you are an achiever, sometimes it’s just your pattern to see, what is missing. Change this pattern into gratitude for what you have, and you will feel better instantly.
Past – Present – Future
Also focus on what is now going on or in the future. The past is done, and we cannot change it anymore.
Dig this: happiness is a mixtape of gratitude. Want happiness? Be the DJ, not the audience. It’s all about owning the stage, embracing what’s in your hands, and throwing a party for the now. Own it, live it, love it. Happiness is your encore. 🎉
Expecting too much from others can set us up for disappointment and frustration. When we place excessively high expectations on people, we essentially hand them the script to our happiness, making it contingent on their actions. Here’s why it’s cooler to ease up on the expectations:
- Preserves Relationships: People are imperfect, just like us. Lowering expectations means we embrace the reality of human flaws. It’s not about settling; it’s about accepting and appreciating the uniqueness of each person.
- Reduces Disappointment: High expectations often lead to letdowns. When we dial it down a bit, we open the door to pleasant surprises. Life becomes a series of positive moments, not a checklist of unmet expectations.
- Encourages Personal Responsibility: Relying on others for our happiness can be disempowering. Shifting the focus to what we can control puts the reins back in our hands.
- Fosters Independence: Expecting too much can inadvertently lead to dependency. By lowering the bar, we encourage both ourselves and others to be self-sufficient. It’s about collaboration, not reliance.
- Promotes Gratitude: When we don’t demand too much, we’re more likely to appreciate the efforts and gestures, big or small, that others make. Gratitude becomes the foundation of our relationships, making them more fulfilling.
In a nutshell, it’s not about settling for less; it’s about embracing the reality that everyone is on their own journey. Lowering expectations isn’t about lowering standards; it’s about allowing space for growth, understanding, and connection without the burden of unrealistic demands. Keep it real, keep it easy.